Being the feminist that I am the “Gender and Leadership” workshop was really important to me. Women leaders are still, in 2016, not as common as they should be. The idea that women aren’t strong enough or don’t know enough is a bunch of crap! According to research, women earn 57% of bachelor degrees, 60% of masters degrees, and more than 50% of doctoral degrees. I don’t want to hear women aren’t smart because you can’t argue with years of statistics. It has been proven that women lead in a more democratic style compared to men who usually go with a more direct style. This usually leads to better results because people feel more welcomed and open to share ideas. Being the next generation of ethical leaders, we can help to change this. I don’t blame men, I blame societies standards. I think it is important to also acknowledge agender people as well. Someone’s gender or lack of gender doesn’t affect how effective of a leader they are. I am committed to getting female leaders recognized in society’s eyes. I hope to one day hold a high leadership position in the National Athletic Trainers Association(NATA) or the American Kinesiology Association(AKA). I will not let others suppress me simply because I am a female.
My year at CMU has introduced me to some amazing people. I hope I impacted any of them as much as they impacted me. I may be over 100 miles away but I will always remember and appreciate everything they did for me. Here are just a few from the countless number of great people I met this school year.
- Morgan and Derek- These two humans are truly gems in this world. I had a hard time making friends here but these two were always trying to break me out of my shell. Whether that be introducing me to new people or inviting me to go out. I could always count on these two for a word of advice or a listening ear. Derek is such a passionate intelligent person and the world needs more people like him. Morgan is truly a darling human being. She is not only beautiful on the outside but she is beautiful on the inside too. I will be visiting Cheboygan and Port Huron in my future!
2. Madi- She may be the most dedicated person I have ever met. I thought I loved school and learning then I met Madi. Not only is she majoring in math but she manages to kick butt at it too. She is always will to do that it takes to learn as much as possible. I wouldn’t have survived in or out of the classroom without her. She was always willing to help me with class work or with boy problems. We have spent so much time together talking about life and future plans. I can’t wait to see all the students she impacts when she becomes a teacher in a few years. She is going to be amazing.
3. Teddy- Whenever I talk about Teddy, which is often, I tell people “God decided he wanted sunshine in a person and made her.” I could write about Teddy forever. I was so lucky to have met Teddy at competitions day. She is the kindest person I have ever met, no questions. She would do pretty much anything for anyone. From our daily breakfasts to our late night Bachelor viewing parties I knew I would end up laughing. I always leave Teddy in a better mood than I came. Her commitment to God could inspire anyone. She is so passionate about her faith and I hope to have a relationship with God like that one day.
4. Sara- How I was blessed with such a great mentor, I will never know! Sara has been so helpful this entire school year. From the day I found out she was my mentor, I had probably ask more questions than everyone wants to get. She was always more than willing to help me out in navigating this crazy college life. Her dedication for her education is truly something I admire. With both of us getting a masters to be Physician’s Assistants I can only hope we can support each other on that journey.
5. Ladies of VOX- Never be afraid to stand up for your passion is just one of the many things I learned from joining VOX: Voices for Planned Parenthood. VOX is an advocate for women’s health, safe sex practices, and pro-choice. We are an odd bunch but I wouldn’t change anything. These women are the most accepting group I have ever met. We have talked about thing I never dreamed about telling people because there was never any judgment. I hope to continue to advocate for women for many years to come.
To say LDR 200 was different than LDR 100 would be an understatement. In LDR 100, we just had fun and joked around most of the time. Not that I didn’t enjoy it but we didn’t really learn much about leadership. I was excited when I found out LDR 200 was all about learning what leadership really was. Over the course of the semester we were challenged in our ability to explain, show, and demonstrate. We had to facilitate a 15 minute initiative(not a game!) and a 40 minute workshop.
For my initiative, I had goal setting! I got to work with three other people and we created a fun, education initiative to teach the class. We worked really hard and created a really fun deserted island scenario. From what I saw, the class had a fun time and they had a good time competing with the other teams.
For my workshop, I had the path-goal theory. This theory talks about how leaders should motivate their followers through setting goals. According to the theory there are four different types of leaders. We wanted to base our activity on this aspect. I am so proud to say that I created the entire activity we did. We had a list of qualities from the book describing the four types. I came up with “Pin the Trait on the Leader!” The class was split up into groups and tried to figure out which traits corresponded with which type of leader. I was nervous to present but I think we did a great job and I am proud of the entire group.
This class was very interesting! I have always had a liking for history. I really enjoyed it in high school and passed all my classes with A’s. This class brought on struggles that I wasn’t use to facing. I also enjoyed it at the same time. My professor, Dr.Tobin, was odd but passionate. Everyday it was very prevalent that she knew what she was talking about. She was so knowledgable in the topics and I think that is great. Her little jokes always brought laughter and smiles in the room. She was vocal when talking about things she cares about and her door is covered with political stickers. She is a pretty hip lady!
We learned about many great historical leaders while in American Experience. Some being Martin Luther King, Alexander Hamilton, and Abraham Lincoln. We had to write a 10-page long research paper about a historical leader for our final project. I was dreading. However, once I started researching I learned to much! I researched Clara Barton, who created the American Red Cross. I really have grown to admire her. She did an insane amount of humanitarian work in the fields of education, medicine, and women’s rights. These are all things I really care about so it was cool to see how she overcame so many struggles in her life.
I wanted to go to Central Michigan University so badly. I was so excited to go off on my own and be independent. CMU is three hours away from my house and in August I would’ve said that it was still too close. This year was nothing like I expected. I am not going to lie and say I loved it because I didn’t. However, with struggles come lessons.
- Family is everything. I couldn’t wait to get away from my family. I didn’t really get along with them very well. Three teenagers living in one house is a lot of hormones! There was common attitudes and bickering. I was so excited to get away from them. Now I would do anything to see my siblings every day. We were much closer than I ever realized. I missed them more than I didn’t miss them. My mom is a single mom and I am the oldest so we are really close. She has been my rock this year and I wouldn’t have been able to do it without her.
Make the best out of situations. Fairly early into the school year I became very unhappy. My grades weren’t great, I wasn’t making friends, and I missed my family. First semester was one of the lowest parts of my life. I was counting down the days until winter break. While I was on break I did realize something. I had to go back, that wasn’t a question(at that point). I wasn’t thrilled but I had to make the best of it. When I got back to school I decided I was going to try to be happier. It worked for a while but I slowly slipped back down. I always tried to remind myself that it could be a lot worse.
- I have always believed that everything happens for a reason. My year at CMU was no different. While I was here I realized what I valued and what I truly cared about. Not everything about this year was bad. I met some absolutely amazing people who are going to change the world. I was blessed to learn so much in the classroom that is going to benefit me as I continue my journey to saving lives.
- Don’t be afraid to be passionate. One great thing about college is most people have a passion. Something that they really care about. While I have been here I realized who cares what people think. If I truly care about something I need to stand up for it no matter.
Every year all the Leader Advancement Scholars are put on a LEAD Team. These teams help create events for CMU and the LI. I was so thrilled to be one of four freshmen chosen to be on the Competition Day LEAD Team! I had the very fun privilidge of being in charge of creating all the posters and signs for the event. My group had oodles of fun! I was lucky enough to get to work with some really stupendous upperclassmen. The day before the competition all of the scholars got together and you could feel the energy flowing through the LI. It was so exciting! The day went to smoothly and everyone had a great time.
My posts are usually pretty upbeat and light but this is something very important and dear to my heart. Today is the 5 year anniversary of when my entire life was turned upside down. I remember the day like it was yesterday but it also feels like they have been gone for so long. When I woke up on April 18, 2011 it was like every other day little did I know from that day on I would be a different person.
My entire family came and picked me up from cheer practice and I knew something wasn’t right. My dad muttered the words and I was in denial. He said that my uncle decided to take his life but not only his own but he took the lives of my aunt and my cousin. Having to hear something like this in 8th grade changed me. I was speechless, this couldn’t be right. I didn’t talk for hours. I just cried. After a while I walked to my bestfriend’s house and explained everything. My two bestfriends were there and I will never forget their faces when I told them. They may not have understood but they did their best to be there for me. I will always be grateful for that.
Going to school the next day was almost as bad. I come from a smaller town and almost everyone had seen it on the breaking news the day before. I spent most of that day in the counselor center or office crying. I felt like everyone was just starring at me. Thankfully my friends were really supportive and did the best they could to help me out.
This event made me grow up a lot. I was a very carefree, almost selfish person before. My entire demeanor changed. After a few weeks of grieving, I realized I couldn’t change what happened. I could only accept it. This is when I decided I would advocate for suicide awareness so nobody else ever had to deal with what I had to. For my 8th grade capstone, I did a video about suicide and how prevalent it is in this country. I included a bunch of different hotlines and I pray that they helped someone.
God put you on this earth for a reason. The same God that created the sun, earth, and sky believed that the world needed you. You are important and loved. You would be missed.
I pray that I can show people not to solve a temporary problem with a permanent solution.
Suicide Hotline: 1 (800) 273-8255